Memorization Goals

Although I've not completed this as of yet, I had originally posted this November 15, 2008, on my Scripture Study blog, it is still a valuable goal. I'm also no longer the YW president, but I believe the understandings taught in that program make these items a good memorization tool.

Lately, I have felt impelled to memorize a few things. I have a strong desire to get started on this. Originally, I thought this would be a great 2009 new years resolution, but I feel impressed to get going right away so here is a list of my Memorization Goals.

Young Women Theme As the Young Women President I should know this theme by heart. I finished memorizing this first and really quick... now, I've added the new value, Virtue, too.
The Family: Proclamation To The World. This is so important to understand and know in this day and age where these important gospel principles can be so easily confused. I want them ingrained within my heart.
The Living Christ, The Testimony of the Apostles. As some doubt and question the validity of our Christianity and through my efforts to strengthen my relationship with my Savior, I feel this is only a natural step to memorize the Testimony of our Living Apostles of the Living Christ.
The Wentworth Letter, written by Joseph Smith Jr. Particularly, this part: "The Standard of Truth has been erected; no unhallowed hand can stop the work from progressing; persecutions may rage, mobs may combine, armies may assemble, calumny may defame, but the truth of God will go forth boldly, nobly, and independent, till it has penetrated every continent, visited every clime, swept every country, and sounded in every ear; till the purposes of God shall be accomplished, and the Great Jehovah shall say the work is done." During these times of uncertainty and the quick hand of those who wish to blame or persecute The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I have always had this part of the Wentworth Letter come to mind. I would like to memorize it.
For The Strength of Youth. Just the information regarding the topics covered in this pamphlet. This is such a terrific resource for the youth and I would like to be able to quote parts of it when called upon.
Scripture Mastery. Although youth spend a year to memorize only 25 scripture mastery's at a time, my goal is to memorize all 100. Along with all the rest of my memorization goals, I may need the extra two months that starting my new years resolution now will afford me.

Finished Reading the Book of Mormon

On Tuesday, December 23, 2008, I finished reading the Book of Mormon for the second time this year. I had planned to read it four times. Reading 5 pages a day would make that possible, with a few days to spare. But, I procrastinated. Still, reading two times is a worthy accomplishment.

I had marked the scriptures using my plan and I made it halfway through, more than that actually as it was during Christ's visit to the America's that I ran out of a few of my most important colors. I didn't want that to halt my progress so I continued reading. I will finish marking the rest during my next reading.

This next time that I read I plan to take a chronological timeline of notes as well as some trivia questions for a homemade Jeopardy game to play during a future FHE.

Scripture Marking Pictures

Marking The Scriptures

(I'm moving my "Scripture Study" blog to this one.)

A few months ago I read a lot of different talks for a YW project for my dd, a gift from me to her. I ran across this talk, which has become my favorite talk so far on studying the scriptures called A Reservoir of Living Water, Elder David A. Bednar, Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, CES Fireside for Young Adults • February 4, 2007 • Brigham Young University This talk is what inspired my scripture marking quest because he talks about blessings, themes, patterns and connections through scripture study and that started my wheels a turning. I loved that talk. I'm sure I'll find another some day in the future. For now, this is the one that inspired me the most now.

Another inspiration came from hearing various leaders of the Church mention how many times they have read their own scriptures. It was outstanding to hear the number of times they have read them. I decided I needed to challenge myself and read more consistently and deeply, with more hunger and resolution to make them an integral part of my life. Now that I've started, I cannot seem to get enough.

As I started the new year, 2008, reading the Book of Mormon, with a resolution to read it four times by the end of the year, I decided I also wanted to mark them. With the above article I began to see ways in which I might want to make that happen. I found challenges with all of the scripture marking ideas that I have been shown in the past. Mainly because I found them either marking things that were not a concern to me, making it difficult to distinguish between the two, or not enough colors for all the possibilities. During my first reading of the year I considered my options. Then, by July I started reading it the second time and dove in with my marking plan. I had decided on these categories (which gets revised as I read). I have room for maybe a couple more, but I'm limited to my available colors. I've saved purple 'cause that's my favorite color. Not sure how I'll use that, yet.

Prophecies yet to be fulfilled
Prophecies fulfilled (including by Jesus Christ)
Miracles
Parables
Promises, Instruction and Truths
Warnings
Visions/Dream
The Latter-Days=Now
Secret Combinations, priestcraft, pride and apostasy
My Favorite Scriptures

These were the categories that stood out to me. Some of them are combined because I found them difficult to separate. Some promises are instructions, some instructions are also truths, some truths are also promises. That was one of my biggest roadblocks with beginning my scripture marking quest is that I would find scriptures that could meet more than one category. I have a book that explains how to mark the scriptures by only marking the first 3 "spaces" of the verse (which would include the verse number, space, and then the first letter of the verse), and if there is another color that fits that scripture, then the verse gets marked in that color for the next three spaces and so on. I had done that one time and decided I didn't like it. It's an idea for someone else, though. During this reading, I've been erasing those.

That brings me to the next portion of my scripture marking. I only have so many colors - and some scriptures that I wanted to mark would even meet more than one of the combined categories above and one or more of these ideas that are to follow - so I came up with more methods of marking.

Scripture Mastery - these can be promises, warnings, etc, in addition to being a scripture mastery (a list of 25 scriptures each for the Old and New Testament, Book of Mormon and Doctrine and Covenants that Seminary students during the year that book is being studied). But, I wanted to mark ALL of them, too, without compromising the above scriptures that are colored. So, I BOXed all of the scripture mastery's with one color.

I plan to BOX in all of the missionary scriptures from Teach My Gospel - Haven't even started that so I may adjust the details once I get there. For instance, I've considered bracketing them and assigning each chapter a color - and all brackets being reserved for Teach My Gospel chapters.

I plan to BOX in all of the Chiasmus that I find in the Book Of Mormon.

All of these boxed in scriptures are an additional reference in the scriptures that I want to stand out to me, but are also most likely going to compete with the color coding I have planned. So, one doesn't need to trump another. This also allows me to use the same color multiple times. My Dark Blue highlights the latter days, Boxes in the Scripture Mastery and also highlights the Footmarks for the JST.

I have been circling in the old and new testament the Letter (a,b,c,d,e,f, etc) whichever one references a JST (Joseph Smith Translation) or JS-M (Joseph Smith - Matthew), in other words - ALL references to a Joseph Smith translation, I circle the Letter referencing the footnote at the bottom of the page, then I highlight the reference at the bottom of the page (the same color). I did this because as I read the Bible I don't want to miss these references. I don't generally practice looking at the footnotes while I read and if there is a JST I don't want to overlook this revealed clarification.

As my scripture marking progresses I have additional options. These options I found in a book I glanced through in an LDS bookstore. In addition to boxing the scripture itself and circling the footnote Letter, the scriptures verse can be circled, the scripture can have a bracket placed next to it (note my idea already mentioned above), and words can be underlined or circled.

Lists can be numbered (like in 2 Nephi 1:10 the scripture talks about the people would reject the Holy One of Israel, their Messiah, even after knowing five things: 1:Having a knowledge of the creation of the earth and all men, 2: Knowing the great and marvelous works of the Lord from the creation of the world, 3: Having power given them to do all things by faith, 4: Having all the commandments from the beginning, 5: Having been brought by his infinite goodness into this precious land of promise) This makes me stop and think each time I read this scripture (which this one is incidentally also colored in my color of "warning" and notice that these people deliberately rejected and knew what they were doing when they did so), rather then just simply reading right through the verse.

The book warned that these additional scripture marking methods must be controlled or it's overuse can blur it's meaning and the intent for which it is being used - which is to more readily understand your scriptures and bring one closer to it's message.

We can always make written notations in the book and/or use sticky-notes in the margins so they can be flipped over to reveal the scripture. My dd and I have transparent yellow stickers to be used in behalf of a"highlighter" or a way to write in the scriptures without actually writing ON the scriptures.

Recently, I was given tiny little heart stickers for using in my scriptures. I'm using those to mark my favorite verses.

I really love the scripture stickers that can be purchased at LDS Bookstores and online. I have many of the Book of Mormon stickers and have moved on to the Bible stickers. I waited first to mark the Bible so that I could put the stickers over my colored markings. This is because it is nearly impossible, and not recommended, to remove the stickers and replace them so that I can simply mark underneath. The corners like to loose their sticky.

Scripture Notes: What I have also been doing as an ongoing project for a couple of years now, but have taken considerable efforts over the last couple of months to build, is my Word document where I place all of my collections of Scripture Notes. As I find something that references a particular scripture to help me in understanding it, an example or explanation of some sort, like from the Student Manuals or Ensign, I put it in my Scripture Notes under that scripture. When I see something that stands out to me, that doesn't fit in with a scripture, but a Gospel Topic, I have an alphabetized section with bolded categories "Prayer, Motherhood, Obedience, etc" usually answers for me clarifying gospel principles, then I put those under those sections. So far my scripture notes (in Font 7) has 75 pages! I haven't printed it out yet, because I want to finish with the Student Manuals (I've read them before, and highlighted things I liked, but I want to move those things into my Scripture notes, if they still speak to me) and some other books I've been referencing, too. Then, I will print it out. It's been really handy thus far and I appreciate the work I've put into it.

Cleanliness is Next to Godliness.... Which Kind?

(Every time I proof this I change something – so, I’m forcing myself to be finished!)

Before my husband I were married he interviewed me. The questions came one by one, not all at once. One of those questions asked if I liked a clean house. I had told him, of course I do! I love a clean house. It was left at that, but he should have known better since he had helped me clean my apartment.

When I was a single mother is was not uncommon for me to go grocery shopping and only put away the perishable foods. The rest remained in the shopping bags on the floor of my apartment. If they were lucky, then someday they were put away. I remember a friend, who was raised in a disciplined military family and did not have children, chided me for being “just plain lazy” by leaving my food in their grocery bags. Years and years later, coincidentally while she was a single mom, I reminiscently brought up that conversation. She laughed and said, “Funny you should mention that…. You’ll never guess what’s on my kitchen counter!” She had non-perishable foods purchased earlier in the week still sitting comfortably in their grocery bags. I have heard it said that the success of a busy person is knowing what to leave undone. So, is it laziness or time-management? Depends who you ask. The same pattern held true with clean clothes.

Every Friday, for as long as I can remember during my single-motherhood years, I would go to my parent’s house and spend the evening washing our dirty laundry. As I took the clothes out of the dryer I folded them as I placed them into the clothes basket. I would then take my sleepy daughter and I back to the apartment where the clothes baskets would be placed on the bedroom floor. That was it. If they were ever put away, then they would have been lucky.

Kitchen duty is my least favorite and I avoid it like the plague. Dishes are the worst. I can remember that our basic menu consisted of boneless, skinless chicken breasts, hamburger helper, macaroni and cheese, and occasionally a pork chop. Every time a friend called me it seemed we were eating some sort of hamburger, so she thought all we ever ate was hamburger helper. On the other hand, my daughter thought all meat was chicken so we really must have eaten a lot more chicken than anything else. The worst part of cooking are the dishes and I would eventually clean them. It was a very, very small kitchen so it could not get too bad before I was forced to clean.

Then, my husband came along and while we were dating, he helped me clean my apartment. I am sure he justified the mess in some way, for instance how I was spending all my time with him and therefore, could not keep my apartment clean. Psyche! After we married and the house was not clean – rather the dishes were not done, he reminded me that I had claimed to like a clean house. Of course, I argued that I very much like a clean house, but I do not like getting it there! That made him wonder what other answers he had missed-interpreted.

I am much better at most things. I am still slow to put away my clean clothes. My daughter now helps me put away the groceries. She even does the dishes. Maybe it would be more accurate that I have delegated than to say I have improved. I guess I would argue that after carefully planning a menu, scrutinizing grocery prices, maneuvering through the check-out, and lugging the items into and then out of the car that I deserve a bit of help away putting the food. Despite my obvious limitations, my house is not out-of-control.

I am reminded of the old Hebrew Proverb that cleanliness is next to Godliness. Recently, I was discussing with a friend the issue of cleanliness and we laughed about how short we fall where this axiom holds true. I began thinking about God’s expectation for me regarding the cleanliness of my house. Just how clean does He really expect it to be, and at what cost? At what point am I no longer next to godliness? God is perfect and He expects us to strive toward that, even though He knows we will all fall very short.

There are many physical, emotional, physiological and spiritual benefits to a clean home. The discipline that it takes to keep a home clean is the same discipline used in other aspects of our lives. I have heard it said that those with a clean and non-cluttered home also have their finances in order.

There are scriptures related to keeping a clean home: D&C 88:124… cease to be unclean; D&C 90:18 Set in order your houses; keep slothfulness and uncleanness far from you; D&C 97:15…. Do not suffer any unclean thing to come into [your house]; and D&C 109:20…. No unclean thing shall be permitted to come into thy house to pollute it.

I wonder though, in this effort of cleanliness or perfection, if it is acceptable to have a clean house at the expense of each other. Which is more important, a clean house or the love of Christ? Is it okay to achieve a clean house through the means of a screaming banshee or biting criticism? If the purpose of a clean house is to keep ourselves and our surroundings literally physically and figuratively spiritually clean, then is this not negated when not done through non-judgmental kindness, love, patience, and long-suffering?

I have a friend who was raised with the white glove treatment. That sounds really strict and possibly harsh, but it was done with patience and love. When I have heard her talk about her mom and their relationship she expresses the deepest love and respect for her than I have ever before heard. If you were to ask her what is her favorite pastime it would be to clean. I believe that says a lot about her mother’s methods of teaching her children about cleanliness. She has an immaculate house and it is no where near cluttered in any way. Furthermore, I have never seen her lose her composure to achieve that. For those of us who are struggling to reach for the stars in keeping a clean home she provides the model to emulate. I have learned a few points from her stories regarding cleanliness.

Unlike most of us, particularly me, when it comes to cleaning a microwave, stove, or the like I wait until everything has already stained itself permanently onto the surface before I decide it is time to clean. By this time there is no way it will ever again look like new. However, my friend will clean it when it is not even dirty, yet. One day, as she was taking great care to clean her microwave, which she admitted did not need cleaned, she began to wonder how clean she was spiritually. She asked herself if she was taking more care in cleaning her microwave than she was in cleaning her heart, mind and spirit.

Because she was raised in a clean home she finds it difficult to live in anything but a clean environment. She noticed that her sister-in-law suffered from untidiness and her brother would often do the laundry in behalf of his wife. Furthermore, her brother did not complain. My friend asked her brother how he could bear that burden since he was raised so differently and she was home during the day, not him. He responded that she was such a good mother that he could not bear to change anything. For instance she would rather play one more game of Candy Land with the kids than to finish the laundry. He decided it is more important to him that she is a good mother than a good house-keeper. I thought how wonderful it would be to have someone say such a thing about me.

Then, I gave a talk at church and I revealed some of my bad house-keeping habits. My dear husband spoke after me and he let everyone know that although I had those bad habits, he would prefer to have me in the house with those habits than not have me around. My heart jumped! I was shocked. There! My husband had said the SAME thing.

Finally, when we had a new Stake President called (a Stake Presidency oversees a group of LDS wards/congregations), his mother gave a short talk. She had raised a good flock of children and some days were good and some days were not so good. She said that her husband was very supportive and would always compliment her despite the upheaval in their home, even if all he could find was that she had managed to put the lid back onto the peanut butter. Good for her for a job well done!

Although cleanliness may be next to Godliness, and we should cease to be unclean or allow any unclean thing to come into our home may be a welcomed quality when literally speaking, it is not meant to be achieved at all costs. I hope we can remember that cleanliness also figuratively represents our heart, mind and spirit. The way we treat one another with patience, forgiveness, love, charity, and long-suffering cleanses us more than fighting against good, clean, non-perishable, healthy food still sitting in their grocery bags, the clean laundry neatly folded in their baskets still unfamiliar with a hanger, or the rinsed, dirty dishes forgetting the purpose of Joy. Nothing cleanses us more than keeping our hearts in line with the love of Christ.

Is Teenage Romance Harmless?

I loved this article about youth and dating.... I would like to share it; you can find the original article here at Meridian Magazine.

Is Teenage Romance Harmless?
By JeaNette G. Smith

Teenage romance is touted on the movie screen, in romance novels, and on the radio. We see young couples in love and we often sigh, “Isn't that sweet?” In fact, teenage romance, although it may epitomize unjaded affection, will usually prove more sour than sweet.

Prophets have long counseled teenagers to avoid steady dating, yet 1/3 of LDS high school students currently have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Walking through a high school corridor can feel a lot like running a gauntlet—trying to dodge the couples embracing or making out in alcoves. Yet rather than discouraging romantic relationships between teenagers, we adults may inadvertently encourage them. Our encouragement may be as innocent as asking, “Do you have a boyfriend?” or as explicit as lining up couples for a date to the senior prom.

We can hardly expect our teenagers to avoid romantic relationships when the adults in their lives think they're so cute. One mother from Maryland said when her son was in high school, women in her ward frequently approached her, “Don't you think our kids would be good together?” A mother from a small town in Utah said the stake president dropped his daughter off at her house at 10:00 one night after returning from vacation, because the young lady couldn't go another minute without seeing her son.

Parents have a tremendous ability to influence their children to abstain from romantic relationships while still in adolescence, if they first, believe in the prophets' counsel themselves. Gordon B. Hinckley said, “When you are young, do not get involved in steady dating. When you reach an age where you think of marriage, then is the time to become so involved. But you boys who are in high school don't need this, and neither do the girls.” (Nov 1997 Ensign, priesthood session of General Conference)

We may think the only reason prophets discourage adolescent romance is because of the risk of immorality. This is certainly a valid concern. Boys and girls who are emotionally intimate with one another are far more likely to become physically intimate with one another. Folks who are “in love” naturally want to “make love.”

However, in addition to exposing high school students to things they shouldn't enjoy like sexual intimacy, adolescent romance also robs high school students of things they rightfully should enjoy.

Family First
Experts reveal that parental influence diminishes to almost nothing when adolescents have a boyfriend or girlfriend. In his book All Grown Up and No Place to Go, author David Elkind explains that to adolescents, love comes in a fixed amount. They believe they only have so much love to go around, and if they love a boyfriend or a girlfriend, then there isn't enough love left for a parent. Consequently, an adolescent may create conflict with a parent in order to justify giving their love to a boyfriend or girlfriend.

In addition, adolescents are far less needy of parental approval when they feel they have a boyfriend or girlfriend who so wholeheartedly approves of them.

One young lady laments that she spent her entire adolescence immersed in her boyfriend's life. She missed out on family outings because she preferred to be with her boyfriend. All the significant events that she experienced during adolescence, she shared with her boyfriend. Now she is an adult, and that boyfriend is no longer part of her life, she has no one in her family she can reminisce with because her family was not a part of her adolescence.

Just Friends
“It is better, my friends, to date a variety of companions until you are ready to marry. Have a wonderful time, but stay away from familiarity…..(Gordon B. Hinckley Ensign, Jan 2001 p. 2)

Casually dating a variety of companions is way more fun for teens then dating the same guy or girl their whole high school career. When I was young, I attended hockey games with one of my male friends. I attended jazz concerts with another, learned to drive a stick shift from another, went hang gliding with another, flew in a private plane with another, went hiking in the mountains with another, learned the history of world religions from another, attended my first wrestling meet, went water skiing, snow skiing, ice skating, scuba diving, camping, played rugby, learned photography, and mountain biking. I would have never had so many learning opportunities had I stayed in a single relationship.

One magazine once ran an article called, “Guys are like electives: You've got to take a bunch before you decide to commit to a major!”

Casually dating lots of people helps adolescents better choose someone to date seriously. Casually dating allows young people to discover traits they admire, and what traits they can't tolerate. It helps them discover what traits they, themselves, possess that people admire, and which ones people can't tolerate. Friendship with a variety of members of the opposite sex protects young people from making a poor marital choice.

Rushing into a serious relationship, without spending sufficient time in casual relationships is like taking a final exam without doing any homework. It leads to failure.

Dennie Hughes, the author of the book Dateworthy says, “The more people you date, the easier it is to keep from getting too involved too soon with the wrong person….. Anyone who expects you to commit in the early stages of dating is a red-flag personality.” (Rodale Press, 2004)

High school students need a variety of experiences that can only be found outside of a steady-dating relationship. Teens who go steady don't have the freedom to make friends with a variety of members of the opposite sex either because the “steady” will get jealous or because they are always with their “steady.”

Not only do exclusive relationships deprive high school students of experiences they sorely need to thrive emotionally, exclusive relationships expose adolescents to harmful experiences that actually cause emotional damage. Exclusive relationships that lead to sex, or that end in a breakup both expose adolescents to trauma they are better off without.

Breaking Up is Hard To Do
Breakups among adolescents are as predictable as the seasons. In previous generations steady dating in high school led to marriage because ½ of all girls married while in their teens. In this generation, the average age for a young woman to marry is 25 years old. Steady dating and falling in love is perfectly appropriate when marriage is an imminent possibility. Pairing off when marriage isn't likely for 9 more years will surely result in a break up.

Breakups are far from easy for high school students. One young lady began her first love affair at age 14, before she was technically old enough to “date.” She met a boy on the Internet who was 15 years old and they communicated constantly. They decided they were destined to be together and committed their undying love to one another. Disaster struck when this young boy turned 16 and felt free to go on real dates. He broke up with his Internet lover and left her devastated. She cried constantly, stopped eating, went to the doctor and was eventually diagnosed with anorexia. Clearly, young people have an amazing ability to love. But they don't have much of an ability to love faithfully.

Breakups, such as the one described, can result in mild depression, where the teenager holes himself up in his room for a few days and mourns. Or the consequences of a break up can be moderate, wherein a jilted lover may blow his grades for a semester, or get arrested for keying his ex's car. The consequences of a break up can also be quite severe, such as the girl from my son's junior class who jumped off a building in downtown Jacksonville .

Regardless of the level of hurt a breakup produces, mild, moderate or severe, breakups in high school are entirely unnecessary. High school students shouldn't even be glued together in the first place, so there should be nothing to break. Granted breakups are a part of life, but they are far less likely when a couple is emotionally mature and when marriage is a realistic possibility.

Risk of Divorce
Statistics show that the number of failed relationships a young person has before marriage corresponds directly with the likelihood of divorce after marriage. Knowing that high school romances more often break up than succeed we can conclude that high school romance can actually compromise the ultimate success of a marriage.

The human heart is extremely resilient, but it still has its limits. It can only get broken so many times before it is unable to mend. Teenagers who enter one painful relationship after another eventually lose their ability to trust. Although breakups are often necessary before finding the relationship that leads to marriage, it is wasteful to enter a relationship knowing full well that it will eventually break up.

Adolescent learn lousy relationship lessons when they go steady, not only because their relationships end in breakups, but because few adolescents possess the maturity necessary to be in a serious relationship. Adolescents are at a developmental stage where they are generally selfish, impulsive, fickle, and idealistic—the opposite traits that lead to successful marriages. Teenagers who learn about intimate relationships from partners, who treat them poorly, may be slow to trust their eventual marriage partners. Rotten romances leave scars.

With all the harms caused from high school romance, and all the healthy learning that eludes those involved in a high school romance, one would wonder why we still see Latter-day Saint youth going steady in high school?

Perhaps the LDS youth may choose to go steady because they have not been taught correct principles, or alternately, they may choose to go steady because parents teach correct principles but are overwhelmed with the difficulty of enforcing them. Steady dating in high school is such an inherent part of our culture, we might wonder if we can ever eradicate it. Young people can hardly wait until they turn 16 so they can have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Homecoming dances, Sadie Hawkins, Prom, are all designed for high school students to pair off, (to “hook up” in the students' vernacular). High school romance is as deep-rooted in our culture as the Palmetto plants in my Florida back yard.

The traditions of our fathers, just because they are deep-rooted, however, doesn't mean they are healthy. Our task is to improve on each generation, to make this generation better than the last. Traditions that may have worked in generations past, do not fit in the new millennium. Perhaps this generation can create some new traditions.

Does Your Nose Run When You Yawn?

During the first part of our marriage there were many occasions when my husband would hear me sniffle and wonder why I was crying. I would explain to him that I was not crying, but in fact was yawning. Then, life would continue without any further comment. I didn’t expect anything else since I had in fact explained the cause of the sniffles.

Then, one day as we were driving along and I was looking out the window next to my seat, my husband heard me sniffling and asked what was wrong. Again, I explained matter-of-factly that nothing was wrong, I was just yawning. This time he asked why I tell him that I’m yawning when I could just tell him what is wrong. Why am I giving him such a silly excuse as yawning when he knows that yawning doesn’t cause one to sniffle? What? Yes it does. I was taken aback when he said his doesn’t run and had never heard of such a thing.

He thought the idea was ludicrous. Now, I learn that for all those years he thought I had been upset and was refusing to share with him the cause while giving him some absurd excuse of yawning. I can only imagine the thoughts that were going through his mind all those times I said I was yawning. Yet, even now I couldn’t convince him it was the yawning.

I was stumped. I thought everybody’s nose ran when they yawned. My eyes water and nose runs. Not usually for simple little yawns, but when I'm dog-dead tired, I'll have to get out the tissues.

Since I couldn’t get him to believe me I started asking everyone I met if their nose ran when they yawned. I was shocked to discover that everyone said no. They would always look at me really funny, as if it were a trick question. I might as well have been asking them if their toes jingled when they crossed their eyes. Just wondering…… let’s change the subject.

It took me nearly a year to find someone who said yes. It was funny because he answered with all assurance that this was a very common expectation from all people.

“Well, yes. Doesn’t everyone’s nose run when they yawn,” he had asked.

His friend said, “no, just you weirdo’s!”

He was as stumped as I had been. So, I explained to him the history of this question. Now he knows. We are minorities. For some reason, ours runs and most of the world’s does not. Go figure.

So, tell me, how alone are we? Does your nose run when you yawn?